I recommend these informative and helpful YouTube videos to watch/hear...all with Dr. Robin DiAngelo:
I cried listening to this comprehensive and powerful one...about loss due to living segregated from POC as significant influences in my life.
Dr. DiAngelo leaves us with: it would be a revolutionary change: to receive feedback, reflect, and try to change behavior.
More if you are interested:
Why do white people insist race doesn't matter? What’s it mean to be white?
How Not to Be Racist
No, I Won’t Stop Saying “White Supremacy”, June 30, 2017